Asking for guidance!

Asking for help or guidance is something that must come from you. We have all been given the freedom of choice in order that we may fully experience our sojourn on earth. Consciousness is the energy creating and moulding our experience. Experience – being the whole point. Source does not judge our experience as being good or bad. We have been given free will and the power to create our experience, it is up to us whether or not we choose the pleasant over the unpleasant. There is no good or bad. There is only pleasant or unpleasant. Ranging from very comfortable to very uncomfortable. These are the sensory polarities of the human experience.

Source is only interested in that we are having the experience of physical existence regardless of whether we choose the pleasant or the unpleasant.

Sometimes only when the experience is unpleasant enough do we turn to our Highest Source of wisdom and ask, why? How can I make the experience pleasant? What am I doing wrong?

If at the point of our asking our intentions are pure and we have reached a place where there is no fear of the answer and when we surrender ourselves to Higher wisdom, do we begin to open ourselves up to the guidance available to us.

All experiences both good and bad are what make you who you are. Why then would Source deprive you of any of these experiences - even when you are choosing the unpleasant ones?

The physical world is a world of sensory experience. Love brings us joy, laughter, peace, serenity, contentment and happiness, all the positive emotions. Fear brings us anger, resentment, hatred, depression, anxiety and misery, all the negative emotions.

When we surrender to the fear which comes from the feeling of being “separate” and trust in the love which is the feeling of being” connected” only then are we able to free ourselves from having the unpleasant experiences. Freeing ourselves from the fear means trusting enough to let go of the need to control. This opens us up to receiving guidance.

The feeling of being “separate” instills fear, which brings about the need to control. Taking control of your life when it is based on fear is like trying to experience a delicate breeze while wearing a heavy coat. You have to trust yourself enough to know that you will have to remove the coat and stand naked in the wind in order to experience what it feels like.

Do you remember as a child, seeing the picture of Jesus the Christ where his heart is depicted as a door with no handle. The artist who created this piece understood the spiritual law of asking. The picture symbolizes the process of asking. Knock politely at the door of the heart of Source and it will be opened from the inside. It cannot be opened from the outside. You can only initiate the process, all you can do is knock.

You must be ready to trust and surrender to Source and its wisdom. There must be no fear only trust and your intention must be pure. When all this is in place and you ask you always get an answer - usually within 24 hours.

I remember clearly my first experience of asking?

It was many years ago. I was a single mother and had been out on a date with someone who was clearly not interested in me as a person. When I got home it was very late. I crawled into bed turned out the light and found myself still sitting up in bed in the dark. I remember feeling I had reached the end of my tether. Last night’s date had been the last straw. Precious hours spent in the company of an emotionally numb egotistical person who had no idea of who or what I was and even more alarming, absolutely no interest in finding out. It had been such a long drawn out evening, such a waste of precious time. Here I was feeling absolutely exhausted, sitting up in bed, thinking how very late it was, that I had to get up early, see to the children and go to work. I felt as though I had had enough of dating. From now on I would focus my full attention on my family and forget about looking outside of this in order to find someone to love!

I had been reading a lot of Spiritual books and many of them had talked about the Higher Self and how we are able through meditation to connect to this aspect of ourselves which is all wise and knowing. Without really thinking about it I found myself entering into a conversation with my Higher Self, it went something like this:

“I have read in so many books that YOU have all the answers, YOU know what the future holds. I am tired of looking for someone to love, who will love me in return and finding only shallowness. Tell me, IS there someone out there who will ever love me the way I deserve to be loved? Go on I know you know the answer, I know you can tell me if you want to. Go on then, I dare you! Just give me a little hint. I know YOU can do it I know YOU know the answer so I challenge you to give it to me”! At this point I was talking aloud, laughing and flirting with this aspect of myself, challenging it to reveal it’s Higher knowledge. I think I was a little hysterical at the time due to exhaustion as I clearly remember laughing out loud while posing my question.

Finally I slid under the covers and immediately fell asleep. I awoke two hours later having had a dream which clearly indicated to me that yes, I would find someone who would love me and who I would be able to love in return. The most remarkable thing about the experience was not the content of the dream in fact I don’t even recall the content of the dream - what was remarkable was the sensation I experienced on waking from the dream. It was the feeling of love. It felt warm, safe, and secure, like being wrapped in a warm blanket only 1000 times more comfortable. At no time in my life before or since have I ever felt such a profound feeling of love. A feeling of safety, security and unconditional accepting love. I realized that this “feeling”, “sensation,” “sensory experience,” call it what you like, was coming from my Higher Self. I also realized it was the answer I had so “flippantly” challenged it for!

Yes I would find someone to love, someone who would love me in return. There was no measure of doubt in my mind. As is always the case, when you connect to and receive guidance from this Highest Source of wisdom, the sensations attached to these encounters are what make the experience so profound. They leave no room for doubt. This is not easy to convey to someone who has not experienced such an encounter. What I want to emphasize here is that when you experience an encounter with your Higher Self, there is never fear or doubt attached to the experience. If you are in any doubt as to whether the information you are receiving is coming from your Higher Self or not, then more often than not it is coming from your logical, rational or ego self and there will be doubt or fear attached to it.

What I realized from my first experience is that the Higher Self is your best friend. You can be as honest and open or as flippant as you like - provided your intentions are pure! I had opened myself up and asked from the heart. My intention was pure and I had no fear of the answer.

If you have asked repeatedly and not received an answer, reflect on your question and how you have posed it? Is your intention pure? Are you ready to hear the answer? If the answer is not what you are hoping for, then perhaps you are hoping for a different answer. If the answer you are receiving is not the one you were hoping for, you may find yourself repeating the question over and over again - hoping for a different answer! Perhaps you are afraid of the answer you are receiving - perhaps this is not the direction you are wanting your life to take? This is when you need to trust in the Higher Wisdom guiding you and follow these Intuitive nudges, even though you may not know where they are taking you!

Fear is what causes the blockages within our energy system preventing us from making a crystal clear transmission. Fear distorts the frequency, corrode’ s mental clarity and focus and contaminates our energy. Fear disrupts the connection.

Are you afraid in any way of hearing the answer? Do you trust enough to know that the answer, although it may not be what you were hoping for, is for the Highest purpose of your Soul. That it is in alignment with your personality and coming from your Higher Self, which is the all wise and knowing aspect of Self. Now that you know how to ask, you will need to learn how to listen.